Shift Out of Overwhelm with Somatic Attachment Therapy

Do you feel like you’re constantly drowning in responsibilities, emotions, or everyday life demands?

Does your body feel tense, your mind scattered, and your nervous system stuck in overdrive? If so, you’re not alone. Many people live in a near-constant state of overwhelm, unable to fully relax or feel at ease.

This ongoing stress isn’t just about a busy schedule or too many obligations; it often has deep roots in our nervous system and attachment patterns.

Somatic Attachment Therapy offers a powerful, body-centered approach to understanding and healing chronic overwhelm by working with both the body and relationships to restore a sense of safety.

Why Overwhelm Feels Never-Ending

Overwhelm isn’t just about being busy; it’s a nervous system response—one shaped by our past experiences and current environment.

Our autonomic nervous system (which controls automatic functions like heart rate, breathing, and digestion) reacts to stress and safety through built-in survival responses.

Polyvagal Theory helps us understand how our nervous system reacts to stress and how we move through different emotional states depending on what’s happening around us and inside our bodies.

Polyvagal Theory explains how we shift between feelings of safety, alertness, and shutdown:

• Ventral vagal state (safety & connection): In this state, you feel calm and present, able to connect with others and handle daily stresses without feeling overwhelmed. Your body feels at ease, and you’re able to be engaged with life.

  
  

• Sympathetic activation (fight-or-flight): When your body senses danger or stress, it goes into “fight-or-flight” mode. You might feel anxious, restless, or like you’re constantly on edge, as if you’re always ready to react.

  
  

• Dorsal vagal shutdown (freeze): If stress becomes too much, your body may go into “freeze” mode to protect itself. This can leave you feeling emotionally numb, drained, or disconnected from everything around you.

For people who grew up in relationships where their emotional needs weren’t always met, their nervous system can get stuck in "survival mode."

This means they may struggle to feel truly safe, even in situations where there’s no real threat. This can show up as:

• Sympathetic activation – Like a hummingbird in constant motion, this feels like chronic anxiety, hypervigilance (always being on high alert), or an ongoing sense of urgency.

  
  

• Dorsal vagal shutdown – Like a turtle retreating into its shell, this feels like emotional numbness, exhaustion, or withdrawal from relationships and the world.

  
  

When the nervous system learns to stay in fight-or-flight or shutdown mode, even small stressors can feel overwhelming. Healing involves gently retraining your body to recognize safety, regulate stress, and restore a sense of ease.

How Somatic Attachment Therapy Helps

Shifting out of chronic overwhelm isn’t just about changing your mindset—it requires working with your body and relationships.

Somatic Attachment Therapy integrates body-based practices with attachment theory to help you feel safer in relationships and more at home in your own body.

Healing Through Co-Regulation

Our nervous systems don’t regulate on their own—they thrive in connection with others.

Co-regulation is how we help calm and soothe each other, whether through a gentle touch, comforting words, or simply being present. For instance, think of how a baby relaxes when held by a caregiver, or how you feel calmer just by being around a steady, grounded friend.

When we’ve experienced relational wounds, true healing happens in relationships where we feel safe, seen, and supported.

If past relationships taught your body that stress, disconnection, or unpredictability was the norm, healing requires experiencing consistent, regulated support. 

A therapist trained in somatic attachment work can offer the co-regulation your nervous system needs to shift out of chronic overwhelm.

Practices to Support Your Nervous System

1. Reconnecting with Your Body

Overwhelm often pulls us into our heads, disconnecting us from our body’s signals. Somatic therapy helps you tune into sensations so you can recognize early signs of stress and respond before overwhelm takes over.

Invitation: Imagine your body as a body of water. Is it still or in motion? Observe the patterns, textures, and flow—without trying to change them. Just paying attention to how your body feels without trying to change anything helps you tune into your body's signals, which is an important step in learning to calm and balance your nervous system.

2. Regulating Through Rhythm

When your nervous system is stuck in overdrive, it needs co-regulation (soothing support from others) and self-regulation (internal coping resources) to find its natural rhythm again. Grounding, movement, and rhythmic engagement help restore balance.

Invitation: Press your feet firmly into the ground, imagining them rooting into rich soil. If it feels supportive, sway gently like a tree in the wind or tap a steady rhythm on your legs. Rhythmic movement creates a sense of stability, gently guiding your nervous system toward regulation.

3. Healing Early Attachment Wounds

If you grew up in an environment where stress or emotional overwhelm was common, your body may have learned that this is “normal.” You might have received messages—directly or indirectly—about which emotions were acceptable and which weren’t.

Healing happens through felt safety—a deep, body-level knowing that you are safe, supported, and worthy of care. Over time, this helps your nervous system shift from chronic overwhelm to a state of calm and connection.

Invitation: If it feels comfortable, place a hand on your heart or hug yourself gently, like the sun wrapping the land in warmth. Imagine a loving presence offering safety and care. Notice what arises with curiosity—without needing to change anything. These small moments of self-compassion help reinforce new neural pathways for safety.

4. Creating Safety in Relationships

If attachment wounds make relationships feel unsafe, you might cope by either avoiding connection (hyper-independence) or fearing rejection (relationship anxiety). Somatic therapy helps you build secure connections by regulating emotions and setting healthy boundaries.

Invitation: If you feel overwhelmed in a social situation, take a moment to orient yourself. Notice the space around you—the colors, shapes, and textures nearby. Let your eyes settle on something neutral or comforting. Feel your feet on the ground, like a tree steady in the earth.

5. Integrating Small Moments of Rest

When you’ve lived in survival mode, slowing down can feel unfamiliar—even unsafe. But rest is not a luxury; it’s essential for healing. Small, intentional moments of stillness can teach your nervous system that slowing down is safe.

Invitation: Gently unclench your jaw, drop your shoulders, and exhale. If it feels comfortable, allow your body to settle, like a lion stretching lazily in the sun. Notice any shifts—a sense of softness, grounding, or ease—and give yourself permission to rest in this moment.

You Don’t Have to Live in Overwhelm

Healing from chronic overwhelm isn’t about "fixing" yourself. It’s about learning to listen to your body, honor its needs, and create safety through connection.

While self-help tools are a great starting point, true healing happens in relationship—with a therapist, a trusted friend, or a supportive community.

You don’t have to navigate this alone. Healing happens in connection, and with the right support, your body can relearn safety, ease, and belonging.

If overwhelm feels like your norm, let’s explore how Somatic Attachment Therapy can support your journey toward greater ease. You deserve to feel safe in your body and your life.

Danielle Morran is an anxiety therapist who specializes in working with families, teens, and parents with anxiety stress, emotions, and family conflict. Danielle is a Certified Canadian Counsellor and practices somatic attachment therapy, narrative therapy, functional family therapy, mindfulness, motivational interviewing, and CBT.